A Lesson In Relational Ministry

Several years ago, I found myself sitting in a gay bar, playing bingo with drag queens, shooting pool with gay men, and conversing with people I never thought I would ever have a conversation with. It was – initially – a very awkward experience. I don’t enjoy hanging...

Did Pope Francis Really Say That?

I love Pope Francis and I know I’m not the only one. From the moment he was elected at the conclave nearly two years ago, it seems that everyone—including the media, the non-religious and the fallen-away Catholics—fell in love with him. He is simple, down to earth,...

To be Pro-Life, be Pro-Love

On January 22, hundreds of thousands of people will join together in Washington DC for the annual March for Life. January 22 is the anniversary of the Supreme Court decision Roe v. Wade, which legalized abortion in America—effectively ending the fundamental right to...

Principles for Christian Dating

Every relationship ends in one of two ways, you either get married or you break up. If you know that you are not going to marry the person you are dating, you NEED to break up! Remaining in the relationship means you are delaying the inevitable and you are taking...

How Do You Know When Its “The One?”

One of my favorite things to do when I have spare time is to catch a movie. There was no shortage of major blockbuster movies this holiday season – and the one that I was most looking forward to was the final part of J.R.R. Tolkien’s The Hobbit. There’s a scene in the...

Advice from a Married Man to a Single Friend

There is a tendency among those who have not yet committed to a vocation to assume that they are called to marriage because they don’t feel called to priesthood and religious life. The problem with this mentality is that you are discerning a vocation to marriage based...

The Problem With the Youth Group Mentality

“We may live in a culture in which bigger has become synonymous with better, but we serve a Lord who spoke of his kingdom in terms of a mustard seed, a widow’s mite and a single lost sheep. I love building a crowd. It makes me feel good. It makes me look good. And...

Challenging the Chastity Message

I grew up attending Catholic high schools – which meant that I frequently heard chastity presentations as a member of the student body. I’d like to say that I was receptive to the message, but actually I was just the opposite. I recall walking out of a session when I...

When is Your Relationship Ready for Sex?

I came across a quiz in Seventeen magazine (don’t ask why I was reading it) – asking the question, “Are you ready for sex?” I was intrigued, so I took the quiz. Thankfully, the quiz determined that I was in fact ready. So how did Seventeen magazine determine that I...

The Shift in Youth Culture

Recently, I heard about a conversation between a veteran youth minister and a youth minister in their first year of ministry. The novice youth minister had grown up in a large, very successful parish youth ministry. After graduating high school, the novice went to...